Wedding Vows are the heart and soul of a wedding ceremony. The guests are eager to hear them and it is a emotional moment where you declare your love for your partner and the beautiful bond you share with him / her.
Basically, wedding vows are the promises that each partner makes to the other during the ceremony. It is an integral part of the ceremony and forms the core of almost every ceremony regardless of faith, region and class.
Wedding Vows are taken in every wedding ceremony, be it Jewish, Hindu, Buddhist or Civil. However, if you are planning to go for a traditional wedding ceremony, you have to say the traditional wedding vows.
For instance, there are different types of traditional wedding vows. These are as follows:
"I, (Bride or Groom), take you (Groom or Bride), to be my (wife or husband), to have and to hold from this day forward, for better or for worse, for richer or for poorer, in sickness and in health to love and to treasure; from this day forward until and unless death do us part."
"I, (your name), take you, (Husband or wife name), to be my lawfully wedded (Husband or wife), as my forever friend, my faithful partner. From this day forward, In the presence of Almighty God, our family and friends, I present you my solemn vow to be your faithful and truthful partner in sickness and in health, in good times and in bad times, and in happiness as well as in sorrow. I swear to love you unconditionally and truly, to support you in your goals, to honor and respect you, to worship (said by groom) or to obey (said by bride) you, to laugh with you and weep with you, and to cherish and value you for as long as we both shall live."
"I (your name), take you (would be name) to be my lawfully wedded (husband or wife), my life partner and my one true love. I will treasure our union and love you more each day and everyday till I am alive and till eternity. I will believe in you and respect you, smile with you and cry with you, I will love you faithfully in good times and bad times, regardless of the obstacles or problems we may face together. I give you my hand, my heart, my life and my love, from this day forward for as long as we both shall live."
"In the presence of Almighty God and family, I take thee to be my lawfully wedded (husband or wife), promising with heavenly assistance to be unto thee a loving, devoted and faithful (husband or wife) so long as we both shall live."
"I (name), take thee (name) as my lawfully wedded (husband or wife) for better or for worse, for richer or for poorer, in sickness and in health; till death do us part."
Besides, you also need to check with your officiant as she or he may have a problem with some of the sentences or they may also be able to provide you with some new ideas.
If you are going for a not-so-traditional or civil wedding ceremony, feel free to add your own words or even funny promises. Don't shy away from using your sense of humor. For example, I promise to always make your preferred apple pie.
Writing your vows, however, is easier said than done.
You need to remember a few points while writing your wedding vows. These are as follows:
- The thing you love most about your partner. This could be anything from his / her appearance, to a subtle mannerism that you found cute or a personality trait that you can't get enough of.
- The way you fell in love. This could mean telling your love story in two to three lines or poetry, you can say whether it was love at first sight or anything that says a lot about you first meeting in a few words.
- You can also go for how you think you complement each other. How your love is unique and your goals and dreams are common .
- Your wedding vows should reflect your personal style, togetherness and dreams you share with each other. They should sound natural and not as if they are directly copied from somewhere.
- They should concentrate on how you feel about each other and how you plan to grow old together sharing a beautiful life with each other.
- Keep the vows short. Long and rambling vows will leave the guests and the officiant bored. Always remember, short is sweet.
- Do not share intimate details. You might be fine with it, but your parents, officiant and the guests do not want to hear about your intimate encounters on a platform.
- Speak clearly so that everyone will be able to understand you. Don't use codewords that only both of you will understand. This disinterests the guests.
After both bride and groom have said their vows, they may wish to say something in unity such as:
"Anywhere you go I will go, and anywhere you reside, I will reside there. Your natives will be my natives, and your Almighty God will be my Almighty God. Wherever you die, I will die at the same place and will be buried there. May God bless us and our family with peace and happiness."